Connecting with Your Child During Holidays

1. Ask to see pictures of friends (maybe he will open up and talk about his friends), or papers or projects he or she might like to share; ask about interesting happenings on campus or in the dorm. (The idea is "We would love to know more about what is happening in your life and what you enjoy." He or she might like the attention.)
2. Remember that your child might be on a different sleep schedule, especially if the school is in a different time zone. Ask what the current sleep schedule is so that you will know not to plan an activity at the wrong time.
3. Don't plan a full schedule for him or her. Be sure to give notice before the holiday break begins as to what family activities are already planned so that they won't be a surprise.
4. Try turning controversial issues (such as rules, now that he or she is home again) into a discussion on an adult level. Talk it over together and decide what works for all concerned. This may help to establish a wonderful new facet of your relationship with your student who is becoming an adult.
5. Spend time praying together. If your student is experiencing difficulties and discusses the problem with you, suggest that you pray together concerning it right then.